24 Hours & More: What Is the Shift?

When Carly and I were first married, she went through a change that we didn’t know to expect and couldn’t have anticipated. As we blindly stumbled our way through how it impacted our relationship, we came to realize that it was a change she didn’t choose consciously - it just happened. Moreover, it was a change that was (unfortunately) never going to happen to me unless I did consciously choose it. As our friends started getting married, we started to notice that it wasn’t just us. Every woman seemed to go through this change, and her husband was completely oblivious to it, and it was never going to happen to him unless he forced it to. We’ve come to call this change “the Shift,” because that’s really what it is: an identity shift. More specifically, a holistic identity shift.

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24 Hours & More: Talk the Talk

Nikki had been entrusted guardianship of her niece and nephew. They were forming a little family trio of their own, and then along comes David, who now has the delicate task of being a fiancé to Nikki, a caregiver to the children - but not a father. The line between “Nikki’s friend David” and “father figure” very seriously and very intentionally began at “I do” for this lovely couple, which meant David spent several months caught in a strange limbo. Teacher, cook, disciplinarian, playmate - but all informally. No pre-established rules or regulations to govern the relationships. These are the rules that we as parents or even step or foster parents can often take for granted.

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24 Hours & More: The Story of Mark & Kylie

One Sunday afternoon, we got a phone call from Mark & Kylie. They said that, after considerable prayer and thought, they were going to go to the courthouse in the morning and get a marriage license. We applauded their bravery and their obedience - but something in our souls still felt wrong. This whole decision was predicated upon their strong desire to honor God with their relationship by whatever means necessary. Their marriage should begin the same way. So we asked if we could throw them a wedding…

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3 Questions to Ask When You’re Trying to Quit Premarital Sex

Today we are going to talk about premarital sex. It’s an awkward topic, we know that. Hopefully, by now, you know that we use the Bible as our basis for relationship guidelines, but it’s not our job to judge anyone’s heart. We’ve just sat with enough couples who have struggled with this issue, and over the past few years we have developed some strategies that we think can be really helpful. So if you find yourself caught in a pattern you’d like to change, here are three questions to consider regarding your sexual relationship with your partner.

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Those Who Learn, Teach

One of my favorite things about working with couples is watching them reproduce what they learn from us in other relationships. When someone truly embraces a concept and applies it to their lives, they are ready to teach it to someone else. And the truth that saved them becomes a lifeline for a friend.

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Mid-March Meh

The gross weather, combined with no real holiday or excitement to look forward to (not a big St. Patty’s day girl), leaves me feeling a little blah. I find myself wanting to curl up with a blanket, a whole vat of coffee, and just avoid human communication until the sun comes back out… You could accurately assume that this quasi-melancholic state of mind does nothing beneficial for my marriage. But over the years, Paul and I have developed a few tactics to “spice things up” when everything feels beige.

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