The Voice of the Holy Spirit

God is a rule breaker. I would love to be able to offer concrete answers to very reasonable questions, but God will not fit into a box. Just when Carly and I think we have a handle on how and why and when the Spirit speaks to us, we get thrown a spiritual curveball, because the Holy Spirit has infinity at his disposal, and he's not afraid to use it. So, with that in mind, we approach the idea of the voice of the Holy Spirit with a mixture of confidence and humility, knowing beyond doubt that the Holy Spirit does speak to us and that we can understand him, while simultaneously recognizing that the method and nature of his communication can change and that listening for his voice is a life-long learning process.

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Contextualizing Priorities: A Page from a Man's Playbook

On average, women have a significantly less compartmentalized process of receiving, storing, and retrieving information than their male counterparts. There are a few metaphors for these dynamics that have floated around for years: waffles and spaghetti, boxes and wires. In either case, the point is that a woman's brain is a complex and inextricable weave of ideas, emotions, memories, expectations, values, and desires. Each one connects to a dozen more at a variety of different focus points, and each of those connects to more and more and more until a woman's identity is significantly more easily understood as a whole than as the sum of constituent parts. Moms don't stop being moms when they go to work, and wives don't stop being wives when they go to the gym. It's all connected and it'd take Tom Cruise and the rest of the Impossible Mission Force to successfully disconnect it…

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Why We Dare to Dream

You're never going to get even hundreds, much less thousands of people, to embrace this vision and sacrifice of their time and energy to support marriages in their community to the degree that you guys are, and you're DEFINITELY never going to get 7 billion people to re-define their understanding of what marriage is and is supposed to be, much less in terms of a religion that they don't all embrace. And to these objections, the seven of us, Not Easily Broken's board of directors, say simply this: CHALLENGE. ACCEPTED.

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Emotions and Perceptions

It's true that I would feel even more validated and righteous in my hurt feelings and frustration if my husband just agreed that he was in the wrong, life doesn't often work like that. If everyone always agreed with our perceptions of the world, we wouldn't have conflict. And my husband won't always agree with my view of events - but if he can agree that my feelings make sense from my point of view, then we have a starting ground. A common ground. And nobody has to feel defensive.

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The Beginner's Guide to Dating Your Spouse

The best part about planning dates at home with your spouse is that you can make it what you want! Use date night as a time to catch up and have a heart check, or be silly with it and have fun. The important part is that you never stop dating each other. Never stop trying. Never stop pursuing.

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