The Truth about Fundraising

If they gave out awards for “best attempts at living a responsible and independent life for Jesus” I would win ALL of them. I’m exceptionally good at doing everything in my power to not be a burden to anyone, to never need anything, to always keep my nose (and my shoes, and floors, and anything that falls within my personal space bubble) clean. I’m still fairly sure that I could achieve June Cleaver-like perfection if I could just locate that perfect set of pearls.

When God called Paul and I to start Not Easily Broken, I struggled with it. And I mean I struggled through coming to terms with what God was calling us to and the real life definitions of obedience, trust, and faithfulness. And in the end, I knew that even though it seemed absolutely crazy to abandon our steady jobs while we had a child at home and another on the way, the crisis facing our community as marriages and families continued to disintegrate was not going to go away while I checked off my responsible Christian “to do” list, isolated in my perfect Christian bubble. The Enemy was all too often winning the battle for the family unit, and someone had to step into the fray.

So a year ago, Paul and I (and a few courageous board members) stepped trustingly into this work, with $50 of our own money in our business bank account, 2 couples scheduled to meet regularly with us, and 4 kids signed up to attend our classes. In the last year, we have had the chance to work with 18 couples, more than 50 kids and their parents, and give several presentations on growing intimacy in your marriage and family. And I think it was always easy for me to remember that the work belonged to Jesus. Sure, we had some education, some work and life experience, but who were we to set out on our own and start a nonprofit ministry? The success of this thing was totally in Jesus’ hands.

But somewhere along the way, the provision for the work tripped me up. So mostly I’ve spent the last year hating fundraising. That independent, need-nothing-from-no-one streak runs deep and not surprisingly it’s been hard to ask people for money. Sure, Paul and I are working out of our home, around our own children, often putting in ridiculously long days in order to serve families in our community. (And we feel so very blessed to be doing just that!) And sure, we don’t have a rich benefactor funding this gig for us. But still, it felt weird to ask people to more or less supply my paycheck.

We are always telling couples that our emotional angst can often be traced back to a priority in our value system. And that’s exactly where my spiritual amnesia caused the problem in my thinking – I forgot that the funding belonged to Jesus too. Because whether I like it or not, Scripture is pretty clear that “my” money isn’t really mine. Any wealth I might have comes from and belongs to Jesus, and it’s ultimately His to disperse to see His purposes achieved.

And I think it’s that value system – that it all belongs to Jesus anyway – that should be fueling all of our fundraising anyway. We obviously didn’t start a nonprofit in hopes of somehow achieving the American dream. We just wanted to be able to sit with people in their hurt, give kids a chance at knowing Jesus, and teach some skills that will allow the light of the gospel to shine out of peoples’ homes. And as we raise the funds needed to operate Not Easily Broken, we get to invite each of you into that ministry.

Your dollars provide the space for a little one to spend an hour with their momma in a safe place, playing and processing some big God concepts as they do.

Your donation provides level ground for a couple to have a mediated disagreement that finally ends in resolution, rather than in isolation and pain.

When you partner with us in the ministry by signing a check, you gift some basic communication skills into a marriage that desperately needs them, because without a fundamental change in communication that relationship isn’t going to last.

Your money is doing Jesus’ work of loving the brokenhearted and setting captives free.

So please know, if you get a text or a message or an email from us asking you to partner with us in this work, we aren’t so much asking for money, as we are inviting you to play a part. We can’t do this on our own. One specific way you might get an ask from us involves something we’re calling the Six Months Initiative (click here to find out more). The Six Months Initiative is our main income source, so we need as many people as we can get to participate. Put simply, the Six Months Initiative is a way for people who want to be part of this work to support us by pledging to donate once a month for six months. There are a few tiers you can donate at, or you can choose your own amount. The point of donating this way is that it allows us to bring in income over an extended period so we can spend less time asking people for money and more time supporting and repairing marriages and training and strengthening kids and their families.

Please accept our sincerest thanks, in advance, for considering an opportunity to partner with us. This ministry exists because of people like you, and we never forget that. Thank you.

Carly Morales