Speaking His Word over Your Marriage

A couple years back I was part of a Bible study, and the worship leader said something I’ll never forget. He said “God always speaks a better word over us than we speak over ourselves.” He meant that the thoughts and feelings and perceptions we allow to define us can quickly sound more like the world than like Scripture. Depending on your personal bent, the lie you believe might be different from the lie I believe, but if we aren’t tuned into God’s voice in His Word it’s easy to own the crap the world throws at us. On my drive into work this morning, I was sorting out my mental load for the day, and as I pushed my to do list to the back of my brain so I could worship for a minute, I could hear it. “You’re not enough. If you were more prepared, more on task, less lazy you’d have this all accomplished and you wouldn’t be stressed. You could even be a better Christian and worship more fully if you were less stressed.” Those words started to seep into my soul and I could feel the emotional baggage I was picking up floating over me like a gray cloud. When suddenly that statement from the worship leader came back to me, and I rejected all the deceitful nonsense.

Between the blog and the podcast (which you should totally check out on Apple Podcasts if you haven’t yet), we've talked a lot already this year about inviting the Holy Spirit into your relationship. There are some specific applications of that, for sure. Sometimes there is a big problem that desperately needs His touch. But other times, there’s just a funk - a layer of emotional weirdness that has defined your down time. Or a disconnect that makes communication strained. Or even just a weariness from all that life brings. In those moments, when words are hard to find, what do you do? How do you pray?

As a wordy person myself, it can be hard to let go of my words in prayer. But thankfully, Jesus gave me a whole big book of HIS words, and when I don’t know what to pray for myself, for Paul, for our marriage, I can pray HIS words over us. I search Scripture until something resonates, and those become the things I can claim for us.

I love knowing that His Word is true and never returns void, that it always accomplishes the will of God in and for those that hear it. It encompasses all of our human condition and sets my perspective back on external, heavenly things. So there is no wrong way to do this - I can pick almost any Scripture and claim those words as true over my marriage, for my marriage, in my marriage. If you’ve never done this before, why not start today? Pick one of these passages and change the pronouns to pray it over your relationship or spouse. Then keep praying it every day… and wait and see what Jesus does!


Psalm 63

You, God, are my God, earnestly I seek you; I thirst for you, my whole being longs for you, in a dry and parched land where there is no water. I have seen you in the sanctuary and beheld your power and your glory. Because your love is better than life, my lips will glorify you. I will praise you as long as I live, and in your name I will lift up my hands. I will be fully satisfied as with the richest of foods; with singing lips my mouth will praise you.

Colossians 1

For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light. For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.

Galatians 5

You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other. So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.


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