What we believe about premarital work.
Helping couples navigate engagement is the cornerstone of Not Easily Broken Ministries. Our name comes from Ecclesiastes 4:12b, a famous passage of Scripture often applied specifically to marriages - "A cord of three strands is not easily broken." And there is certainly never a bad time to ensure that you and your significant other are tightly wound with the third cord, the Spirit of God. But maybe the best time is at the very beginning. Not Easily Broken is here to help you with that. We want to see couples at the beginning of their journey start off as well prepared as they possibly can.
We believe this preparation is crucial for two reasons. The first is drawn from Scripture: it's important to be prepared for the great ministry of reflecting Christ's love for His church to the world. But the second is drawn from our experience: being engaged is really, really hard. As you'll read in our testimonials, one of the couples we've worked with describes engagement as a "desert wasteland when it comes to resources." And sadly, they're pretty right. Most books, websites, blogs, etc., deal exclusively either with dating (before engagement) or with marriage preparation (after engagement). Don't get us wrong - both of those things are extremely important! But engagement isn't just the proposal, and then it's all looking forward to being married. Engagement is a peculiar and particular period in the relationship. It has powerful effects in the present, and is replete its own set of problems. It's a unique time, with unique concerns and difficulties, especially for believers. It's a time when your intimacy and kinship as a couple should grow exponentially, and yet the Bible cautions us to not let passions abound too far, too fast, and too freely. It's a tug-of-war of the heart, mind, body, and spirit. And no couple should have to navigate that alone.
What to Expect
Most of our sessions take place in a private room in one of Warsaw's local coffee shops, though we're open to meet wherever is most comfortable for you. What we strive to offer to every relationship that we support in mentorship and friendship is a balance, of professionalism and informality, haven and challenge, education and support. We have guided couples through issues as simple as "we're having trouble deciding what church to go to," to as complicated as "he had an affair while we were engaged and now we don't know what to do." Whatever your questions, struggles, desires, and goals as a couple, in Carly and Paul you'll find a couple ready to pray for you, sacrifice for you, guide you, support you, encourage you, and champion the cause of your marriage till Christ comes.
Typically with premarital couples, we work through the six issues that tend to trip couples up most as they navigate life:
In addition to these concerns, we will, of course, endeavor to get to know each couple as unique and be sensitive to whatever other issues you would like us to cover. While it's not required, we strongly recommend utilizing the Prepare/Enrich Assessment in cooperation with our regular sessions. To find out more about the Prepare/Enrich Assessment and how it works, go to www.prepare-enrich.com or click here.
Does it cost?
There are two payment options for couples looking for premarital mentorship. If neither option fits within your budget, that's okay! You can easily apply for a scholarship when you schedule your first appointment.
A Special Note
One of the more common issues through which we have guided couples in the past is pornography. It is not at all uncommon for couples to be reluctant to bring up their struggles with pornography in the beginning, and by no stretch has every couple we've seen fought battles with it - but many have. If you or your significant other are struggling with pornography and are planning on getting married, we strongly encourage you to come and see us. It would be our great honor to help you better understand the role that this struggle plays in your lives, your relationship, and the role that it will play in your marriage should it continue that far. Know that we are already praying for you, and that victory in this area is possible. Starting your marriage without pornography as part of it will serve you immensely in the long run, and we can help. Please don't hesitate to reach out to us.